TV's Communication part 1

Written:

I am always interested in relationships, especially in marriage. Growing up with my parents fighting all the time, I told myself to learn all there is to learn to have a good marriage in the future. I've read books and attend workshops/conferences throughout the years and tried to apply what I've learned to the relationship with my fiance. One of the most importance in a relationship is communication whether it'd be verbal or nonverbal. Being able to communicate your feelings and express whatever you need to towards your spouse is extremely vital. “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman said that everyone has a primary love language. “Most of us grow up learning the language of our parents and siblings, which becomes our primary or native tongue. Later we may learn additional languages but usually with much more effort. We must learn the language of those with whom we wish to communicate. No matter how hard we try to express love in English, if our spouse understand only Chinese, we will never understand how to love each other.” Once two people learn each other's love language, they'll be able to communicate effectively.

Non-written:

After knowing my fiance for many years, I've learned the true meaning of the phrase “you speak louder when you say nothing”. For two people to understand the nonverbal communication between each other shows how close and intimate they are to each other. They need to have an in depth understand of the other person within the heart to be able to listen. There are times when my fiance or I don't want to talk about our pain, but we would rather prefer hug or comfort from each other, and just by our facial expression or a look at each other we both understood. Communication, especially nonverbal, is to be learned over time with a lot of trial and error.

Academic Work:

I always get the butterflies when having to speak in front of people. One of the University general education requirements for a degree is a Communication course. I thought I would dread that class since I eat my words during presentations, but I walked out at the end of the semester with a bit more confidence and self esteem knowing that I was able to communicate my point across to people effectively. I learned many ways to communicate to people depending on how people or I will benefit from it. I can be persuasive, motivating, encouraging, informative, etc.

works cited: Chapman, Gary. The Five Love Languages. USA. Zondervan Publishing House, 2004.